In the next article in the series on the “miracle” and the “mind,” we will bring kindness and unkindness in to the discussion about specialness. In A Course in Miracles (ACIM), kindness is associated with humility and learning and unkindness is by using arrogance and specialness. The miracle-minded obviously choose humility, learning and kindness this means they will eventually learn to forgive all specialness which is what maintains the separation from God. Belief in separation pertains to everyone who is the One Son perceiving Himself as separate and different fragments. All unkindness stems from the anxiety in the mind once we repress our fear and guilt instead of forgiving our specialness desires. We blame and project it onto others who are really a part of us in reality.
There are two books by Kenneth Wapnick on, “The Healing Power of Kindness.” Volume 1 is on, “Releasing Judgment” and Volume 2 on, “Forgiving Our Limitations.” I think, these should be required reading and continuing study for everyone who is a critical Course student. These passage says it all:
When you set aside the brilliant metaphysics of A Course in Miracles and its sophisticated psychological insights, the Course might be pared down to 1 simple rule: Be kind. If you’re not kind, then not merely are you not practicing the Course, there’s no way you can also begin to comprehend it. Irrespective of how brilliant your understanding of its metaphysics might be, if you are not being kind toward another person, you’re not doing what this Course is asking (The Healing Power of Kindness, Vol.1: Releasing Judgment by Kenneth Wapnick, p. 10, underline mine).
Not surprisingly admonition, we insist on being unkind:
This inability to genuinely practice A Course in Miracles’kind principles of forgiveness which they study, and sometimes even teach, has perhaps been the absolute most serious failing among its students. This book’s sequel, “Few Decide to Listen,” discusses how students often conceal their thought system of specialness beneath the guise of spiritual counseling or friendship. The lack of simple kindness is, unfortunately, unmistakable to any or all except the Course student making the spiritual pronouncements (The Message Of A Course in Miracles: All Are Called, p. 306).
The non-dualistic meaning of kindness can not be understood here within the ability of dualism as long as specialness is continuously chosen because the ego hails from an unkind thought against God and Heaven. Our unwillingness to identify this concerning the ego, and what all that thought system is capable of doing, is a thing that hinders our progress with the Course. We should be prepared to consider the ego with the Holy Spirit – the actual Teacher – and take that darkness to Him for forgiveness. Nothing may be hidden and that’s straight from the Course.
Kindness To Others Is Kindness To Self
In his books on kindness, Mr. Wapnick also talks about the origin of a person’s unkind behavior is exactly the same fear (and repressed guilt) that is employed in our own mind and that is what unites us. We also provide exactly the same right-mind and exactly the same ability to choose between them. Choosing to be kind doesn’t make us different or better; rather it indicates we’re willing to rehearse the “kind principles” of the Course so that people can learn to comprehend everything it is teaching. It’s simply a question of priority.
He continues on to express that in learning how to be kind towards others, we’re practicing being kind toward ourselves because, “you and your brother are one. They’re a part of you. You are not different.” This goes right to the center of the ego’s thought system wherein the idea of difference is how a ego began – God and His Son were separate and different – and undoes it. Even the slightest hint of specialness could be the ego. What he says becomes clear if you actually study and practice the kind forgiveness of the Course!
A serious student of the Course wants to understand what this means. These students would rather be a happy learner with the only true teacher – the Holy Spirit – instead of a spiritually special teacher of the ego in just about any form a program in miracles.They’re happy to learn from Him how to be free of the burdens associated with denying the Truth:
Forgiveness’kindness is obscure in the beginning, because salvation is not understood, nor truly sought for (S-2.I.1). And here you will lay out the burden of denying truth. Here is the burden that is terrible, and not the facts (T-21-VI.7).
Self versus “self” -or- Identity versus “identity”
In the Course, there’s a distinction involving the “Self” which is our true Identity as Christ and the “self” identity with the ego. This can be a key point to comprehend as the very first accepts the event God gave us through being God-created; but the latter is self-created and completely influenced by the ego and its function of vengeance and maintaining separation. Everyone already believes they’re the ego. We wouldn’t be here otherwise. To consider the possibly of that being correct and needing correction restores aspire to the mind as it points to the way out.
Each time a spiritually special Course teacher (a form of unhealed healer) teaches specialness of the ego, they’re being unkind towards others and thus themselves although they’re highly unlikely to view it that way. They’re also unlikely to believe that it is kind for anyone to have boundaries using them because their fear and guilt (and anxiety) are very great. However, honestly looking at the planet, we see that it’s filled with the fragmented Sonship who is anxiety-ridden from identifying with the ego self. Unkindness is rampant on the planet along with in the Course community. As Wapnick states though, we won’t learn the Course until we choose to be kind.
Our behaviors would be the demonstration that mind we’ve chosen (God or the ego). The ego is a vengeful and tyrannical thought system of unkindnesses whereas freedom from it is tied right to kindness:
Without anxiety the mind is wholly kind (T-6.III.3).
Freedom can not be learned by tyranny of any sort (T-8.IV.7).
It can also be unkind to alter the Course and spiritual specialness does that through competition with God and thus everyone. One small change effectually changes the entirety of the Course, an absolute thought system. If you believe you recognize that, you don’t. If you know you do, you will automatically be kind for you understand the inherent value kindness plays in learning and understanding the Course. As Wapnick states, “It is a question of priority.”